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Get answers to common questions from Dr. Jessica Gold
Frequently Asked Questions
Dr. Jessica Gold is an MIT-trained chemist turned executive relationship coach (aka Relationship Chemist™) for men and couples who want to become a Power Couple and bring the play, peace, and passion back to their relationship. Through her Bliss Science method—a blend of neuroscience, parts work, holistic sexuality, and cutting-edge coaching methods—she helps clients get back on the same team with their wife and restore communication, reignite passion, and create deep relationships that last. This page answers the most common questions about working with her, her courses, and the science behind her approach as a leading relationship and dating coach and matchmaker.
Is This For You?
Who is Dr. Jessica Gold?
Dr. Jessica Gold is an MIT-trained chemist turned executive relationship coach (a Relationship Chemist™) who helps successful men and couples fix communication, recover from sexless marriage, and rekindle passion. She combines scientific rigor with body-based tools as a relationship coach, dating coach, and matchmaker for high-achieving men.
Who do you typically work with?
Post-exit founders, executives, and tech professionals. Men who've built successful businesses and want the same results in love. Whether you're trying to save your marriage, recover from years of disconnection, or find the right partner through dating after divorce, I work with men who are done settling for a mediocre relationship.
I also work with couples looking to fix communication problems and rekindle deep connection and passion.
I also work with couples looking to fix communication problems and rekindle deep connection and passion.
Can you help if my wife won't participate?
Yes. Most men start alone. Here's the thing: a relationship is a system. When you change your part in the dance, the whole dynamic shifts. I've watched men transform their marriages without their wife attending a single session, because when you show up differently, she feels it. Learn more under Save Your Marriage.
What problems does relationship coaching for men solve?
Sexless marriage. Communication breakdowns where every conversation becomes a minefield. The slow drift into roommate territory. Performance anxiety. Nice guy syndrome: suppressing your truth to keep the peace until resentment kills attraction. Uncertainty about whether to stay or go. And for single men: breaking repetitive dating patterns, building confidence, and creating relationships of substance.
Do you work with clients outside the Bay Area?
Yes. My relationship coaching is available online worldwide via Zoom. I also offer confidential walk-and-talk sessions when local. Whether you're looking for a relationship coach online or prefer in-person connection, we'll find a format that works.
Is everything confidential?
Absolutely. My clients include public figures and founders who require complete discretion. All sessions are protected by strict confidentiality.
How It Works
What is the Bliss Science Method?
My signature framework combining neuroscience, psychology, and body-based practices. Three pillars: Hone Your Inner Game (nervous system regulation, confidence, boundaries). Uplevel Your Relationship IQ (communication in a relationship that creates connection, not conflict). Create Erotic Artistry (the skills to build a sex life you both love). Think of it like molecular bonding. Structure, energy, and environment all determine whether a bond is stable or reactive.
How is this different from therapy or couples counseling?
My work is therapeutic coaching: more structured and directive than traditional couples therapy or online couples counseling. I also bring training most therapists don't have: executive coaching, somatic work, holistic sexuality, and the lived experience of the transformation I teach. Many therapists aren’t comfortable talking about sex and haven’t spent 4 years in full-time mindfulness and sacred sexuality practice. You get practices drawn from Eastern non-dual traditions as well as modern sexology, real-time feedback, and measurable outcomes. If you want a system rather than open-ended exploration, and prefer action over analysis, this approach fits.
Why choose couples coaching with you over traditional couples therapy?
Three reasons. First, I'm comfortable talking about sex in detail, and many therapists aren't. Second, my approach is structured: specific practices, in-session and at home, with real-time feedback. Not open-ended processing. Third, I speak to skeptical, logical minds. Men who resist therapy often feel at ease in my practice due to my MIT background. You'll leave feeling like you're on the same team again, with clarity about what's possible.
How can I fix a broken marriage?
Start by changing your own patterns. When you learn to communicate skillfully and regulate your nervous system, your partner feels safe enough to meet you again. The Bliss Science method addresses how to fix a marriage by focusing on what you can control: your reactions, your presence, your leadership. Not trying to change her. Explore Save Your Marriage for tailored coaching.
Investment
What's the investment to work with you?
The Relationship Chemistry™ Immersion is offered by application only and is designed for clients ready for deep, lasting change in their relationships and inner life.
The immersion runs 6–9 months and begins at $40,000, including a private, in-person daylong intensive, ongoing 1:1 support, messaging access, and a highly personalized practice architecture tailored to each client.
My work is for men who see relationship as a path of personal growth, meaning and purpose and want a partner who is a muse and provocateur on the path.
Details are provided through the Coaching Application Form.
The immersion runs 6–9 months and begins at $40,000, including a private, in-person daylong intensive, ongoing 1:1 support, messaging access, and a highly personalized practice architecture tailored to each client.
My work is for men who see relationship as a path of personal growth, meaning and purpose and want a partner who is a muse and provocateur on the path.
Details are provided through the Coaching Application Form.
Do you offer single sessions?
In rare cases, by application only, if I think we can solve your problem in 90 minutes (it has happened before). A single VIP laser session is $1000. Otherwise, after the free initial Chemistry Call, the minimum commitment is six sessions.
Courses & Masterclasses
Where should I start if I'm new to your work?
Love Communication for Men. A six-week course on communication in a relationship that uses neuroscience to show you exactly why explaining and defending don't work, and what to do instead. Great for analytical minds who want to understand why before they change how.
What is Total Confidence in Bed?
A four-week course for men dealing with performance anxiety or wanting to understand what women want in bed. No fluff. Uses neuroscience and body-based practices to change how you relate to your own arousal and connect with your partner. Works whether you're single or in a relationship.
What's Bliss Night for Couples?
A three-hour, at-home guided experience for couples who want to rekindle passion and intimacy through play. Clothes stay on. Great as a reset when you've drifted into autopilot.
Are the courses self-paced?
Yes. One year of access. Go through solo or with your partner.
The Science
What is Relationship Chemistry™?
The intersection of science and love. As a PhD chemist, I see romantic bonding the way I once studied molecular bonding. Structure, energy, and reaction conditions all matter. Relationship Chemistry™ is the framework for passionate relationships that I developed from my MIT training, 10 years studying psychology and coaching, and 10+ years in contemplative practice.
Can science really improve intimacy?
Yes, especially for logical, STEM-minded men. For example, understanding the neuroscience of desire gives you leverage most people miss. There are two types of desire (spontaneous and responsive), and most men only optimize for one. When you understand how the brain and nervous system work, intimacy becomes a skill you can develop, not a mystery you hope for.
Dating & Matchmaking
How do I know if I need dating coaching or matchmaking?
Dating coaching is for accomplished men who want deep relationships as a path of growth, especially dating after divorce. You'll break old patterns, build confidence, and stop repeating the same mistakes. Matchmaking is a bigger commitment: nine months of intensive dating coaching plus curated introductions to compatible partners. It's for men who have everything except the love of their life and are serious about finding her.
Do you work with women?
Occasionally. I help logical-minded, successful women embrace ecstatic sensuality and understand what's going on in men's heads. Most clients are men or couples.
Getting Started
What's the best way to start improving my relationship today?
Begin with curiosity. Notice your patterns, especially the moment before you react. Choose connection over being right, even once. Then explore the Love Communication course or book a Chemistry Call. Small shifts compound. That's the chemistry of change.
Ready to light some shit on fire?
Private mentorship access is limited. Request your consultation below.
*Serious and appropriate inquiries only.*
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