top of page
how to please a woman in bed

The Neo-tantric approach to

solving performance anxiety for good

This is for you if:

You want to be able to rely on your body to 'perform' in the way she loves. 

▽ You're tired of worrying about finishing too soon, staying hard, or being able to finish at all.

▽ You want to get out of anxious thought loops so you can relax and enjoy intimacy.

▽ You're curious about full-body pleasure for men.

▽ You're ready to feel so confident that you walk down the street with the swagger of a great lover.

However, the truth is that sometimes your body just won’t cooperate.

You feel anxious about intimacy because you never know if you’ll be able to ‘perform’...

whether the problem is getting hard, staying hard, finishing too soon, or not being able to ‘finish’ at all.

Thinking Man

You know have so much to offer - you really want to make her happy - and you're tired of being frustrated by the limitations of your body.

Here's the deal: I personally know what a gift a great lover is - and that's why I'm offering this program.

don't want you to hold back the gifts of pleasure and healing that you can bring to women (and I mean that!). 

Men tell me their performance anxiety even causes them to 'avoid' intimacy - let's put an end to that!

▽ Plus, I'll also help you know how to talk to your woman about this so she doesn't shame you - instead, you'll be on the same team.


Hi I'm Dr. Jessica:


I’ve worked with hundreds of men over the past 10 years to get out of their heads in bed and be irresistible to women.

When I left my career as a PhD scientist to go say 'yes' to what scared me, I ended up spending 4+ years in tantric communities.

I went from being stuck in my head, controlling, self-conscious, and unable to orgasm to deliciously embodied, confident, and having multiple O's.

I love helping powerful men in tech become sexual and relational wizards. After doing this work they tell me ‘it’s like night and day.’

Dr. Jessica Gold PhD-level Intimacy Coaching for Men

In this 4-week pre-recorded course, you will:

Learn the 4 fundamental shifts you can make right now to get your sexual confidence back - based on neo-tantric principles and modern psychology

Get the step-by-step manual for addressing the 3 main performance anxiety issues that come up in intimacy

 Dare to relate to yourself (and your c*ck) with compassion - changing your mindset and self-pleasure habits so that you never worry again about your 'performance'

Learn the tantric approach to handling anxiety in the moment 

 Know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are skilled at pleasing her in bed - and she even brags about you to her girlfriends afterwards (yes yes yes!).



  • 4, pre-recorded 90-min classes with accompanying practices, to watch at your convenience


  • Online, in the comfort of your home


  • Delivered WEEKLY for 4 weeks as soon as you sign up

  • You will have access to the course for a full year to watch at your leisure.

I can't wait to meet you - I love going deep with men around these deep topics.

"Jessica took me to places I have never been before in full body pleasure, and in love for myself and others!


It is so comfortable sharing with her, laughing, digging deep into myself in an honest way, then letting her help me find more enjoyment and blissful feelings than I ever experienced.


She has helped me deal successfully with being in a 40-year marriage with differing intimacy needs, and both of us growing older.


She helped me grapple with an abusive childhood and resulting low self-esteem.

I am so excited, in fact, to learn more, dig more, heal more, feel more in future sessions!!"


~ Bob B, New York

San Francisco Tantra for Men
passionate relationships for powerful men

“I really love your energy, I love that I feel safe with you and that you can understand my perspective and struggles as a man.


I often feel reassured by you and I love the feedback I get from you when I'm being a certain way that has you feeling good. 


That's feedback most women never give me."   


~Mike, San Francisco

It’s like night and day after doing the

6-week program you laid out for me!

While I can't say I'm in full control yet, the baseline has become around 20 min and upward as opposed to sometimes ['finishing' before we even began]. ”


~ Mark, New York

how to attract a high quality woman
  • Do I have to attend all the calls live?
    While it is HIGHLY encouraged to attend them live, so you can ask questions and interact with the mastermind, we will be providing recordings as well for those who have to miss sessions here or there. Trust me, you won’t want to!
  • What happens on the calls?
    Some calls are live, hot-seat coaching where we address your real-life, in-the-moment challenges. Other calls are teaching calls, where I teach on a subject and we do an embodied practice.
  • How much time is required outside of the calls?
    No time is required, but it is helpful to engage with the community FB group and you may want to do short practices or reading to accelerate your transformation. Dr. Jessica will recommend points of focus for each man who is coached in a session.
  • When is the in-person daylong retreat? Is it required?
    The date is TBD, but should be in September, approximately. It’s not required, but participants love it!
  • Do you offer refunds?
    No refunds will be given.

Sign up now and stop letting performance anxiety control your intimate life!

bottom of page