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WHY I LOVE WORKING WITH MEN:

My work and my mission is to bring the art of sacred relating to everyone.

Think about it: your intimate relationship is your bedrock.

 

Science tells us that the health of your family life and your feeling of connection with your partner are the biggest influence on your happiness.

 

So why are we taught exactly nothing about how to be smart about relating and intimacy when choosing a partner and over the long term?

 

Men especially were told that it's 'unmanly' to study or understand our emotional world, our nervous system, how to communicate, and how to self- and co-regulate. 

And, what you see in the media is the shaming of men for not knowing these very things that you were discouraged from studying.

 

The old patriarchal model of relating through control and oppression of women has been put to rest, thankfully.

 

But the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction - where well-meaning men are afraid of causing harm through their power and desire, and so we've seen the rise of the 'nice guys' and 'pleasers.'

 

Let me tell you a secret: this new model kills desire in your woman.

 

Women actually love it when you are powerful.

 

The key is - the new paradigm of power doesn't come from power-over another. It comes from inner power.

 

It's the journey I had to go on myself. 

As a former scientist who values the life of the mind and rational thought, I love helping men cross the bridge from the head to the heart, without rejecting either - just as I did.

The paradigm-shifting wisdom of the tantric yogis was to value both intellectual understanding as well as subjective embodied experience. Each refines the other.

My clients have included CEOS & founders in the tech, consulting, and finance industries.

 

They are husbands and fathers who refuse to let the passion die in their marriage, or single men who refuse to live a life of disconnection and loneliness.

  

Many of us come from backgrounds of shame, denial, and repression. It is a radical act to claim our desire, turn toward our emotions, and heal our wounds with compassion rather than criticism.

 

Every man who wants a life-long passionate relationship knows he must at some point take this journey.

 

Join us.

ABOUT ME

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Tantra Coach / Scientist

Jessica Harvey, Ph.D.

There was only one model for how to live life in the small town in Texas where I was raised, and leaving a respectable scientific career to go study an esoteric system of yoga and explore paradigm-shifting ideas about sexuality was not part of it.

As a scientist, I wasn't about to throw rational thinking out the window for New-Age wishful thinking, and as a champion list-maker, I like to accomplish things and did not see the appeal of sitting in meditation.

 

Yet after years in the lab, I was miserable. I didn't know how to feel, I tried to please everyone - which made relating very stressful, and I had never accepted my feminine side. I couldn't relax or let go of control.

 

So I left to go say yes to what scared me. 

When I found Tantric Yoga, it wasn't at all like the pop-culture idea of spirituality. I found rigorous practices that welcomed my body, emotions, and darkness, as well as sophisticated teachings on non-duality and consciousness that satisfied me intellectually. 

I had become a scientist because I wanted to investigate the structure of reality - what is everything made of? In Tantric practice, I found the same inquiry, with the study of consciousness rather than material reality, at the root. In this new framework, relationships became my laboratory.

On some level, whether molecular or interpersonal, I've always been studying bonding!

My teachers include: Layla Martin's VITA coaching certification, Jenny Hale of Emotional Mastery, David Bedrick's Shadow and Process Work, Prem Baba's ABC 1, John Wineland and Kendra Cunov, Jasmine Tarkeshi of Laughing Lotus, Agama Yoga, and Christopher Wallis and Paul Muller-Ortega for classical tantrik meditation and non-dual philosophy.

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